Friday, March 31, 2006
Even though Nikki has told LDSFS that she has picked us to adopt Nikki’s case worker is making her look at other family’s saying that we are not going to be able to do it in time. Nikki told us she is pretending to look but that Lara and I are it… This could all end up really bad if things don’t work out. We are going to try our best though either way.
Thursday, March 30, 2006
I had found an attorney that will help us do the adoption privately since LDS Family services has made it clear that they will not help us. I offered this information to Nikki though, and she really wants to go through LDSFS. Another major obstacle is Lara’s criminal record… because she hasn’t lived in Utah for more than 5 years they are required to do a National check on her. This is called a BCI which stands for Background Criminal Investigation. Luckily when we were entertaining adopting three months ago through the State as “foster to adopt” parents, we ordered a BCI. It hasn’t come back because Lara lived out of State previously and she had to get a National check. Mine sort of failed because of an altercation with Vodka (the dog, not the liquer), but back then they said that was an easy fix and I was going to wait till Lara’s came back. Hopefully it will come in soon.
Wednesday, March 29, 2006
I have spent so much time on the phone with them that it is hurting business. They are adamant that Lara and I will not be able to complete the application process for adoption. Sharon, the case worker who will be dealing with us said that the fastest she has ever seen someone go cold turkey to adopting was 3 months. We have a little less than 7 weeks.
Monday, March 27, 2006
Today we met with Nikki again about adopting her soon to be born son. I was thinking that the meet just went okay. My wife was even more certain that it was our final interview, and that we had passed. I will say that I think Lara and Nikki have a connection that it just wouldn’t be possible for me to have. Lara, having given up her own son for adoption 8 years ago, has enough in common that when she says “I understand” it carries a whole lot more weight than when I say it. A little after 10 o’clock Nikki called Lara on her cell. Lara was pacing and walked out onto the porch so I didn’t hear the conversation. But after the conversation Lara ran into the house and jumped on me and screamed “she picked us.” We embraced and kissed, it was an awesome moment. I will have to figure out how to make this work since the adoption agency Nikki is using, LDS Family services, have told me that they would not help us with the adoption.
Thursday, March 23, 2006
Both Lara and I were really impressed by Nikki, and her mother. I think that the meeting went really good. Of course Lara thinks that it was excellent and that she is going to pick us for sure. I am inclined to be a little bit more reserved as we had felt good the about others before and nothing happened. Either way it’s hard to imagine now that we could be parents in two months! Also today, I had a really long conversation with someone at LDS family services. I mentioned to her that we may be adopting someone in two months and she told me that there was no way possible to get it all done in that amount of time. Seeing as we haven’t been picked yet that shouldn’t be a problem, but I got the ball rolling for future adoptions.
Tuesday, March 21, 2006
Today we set up an appointment to go and meet with another birth Mother to see about adopting. Her name is Nikki. She is a really cute 16 year old girl. Her baby is due in 2 months… she had another family picked out, but they fell through and she is now frantically trying to find someone in time. We haven’t even started the process, and may have problems adopting this baby, but if it’s meant to be it’s meant to be I suppose.