"Hurts to look at" may seem a little dramatic but it really happens. I will see a girl and I cannot look at her, it is as though my retina's will simply liquefy in "Lost Ark" fashion. I have to consciously look away and not stare at her*. Women like this aren't just movie stars, I usually meet at least one of these girls a year. I have known several: Stacy and Robyn from High School - I dated Emily, Ashley, Heather, and Becky - my ex-wife was one - famous girls of note - Jessica Alba, Kristen Bell, Cameron Diaz & Halle Berry.**As I watched Jessica in her commercial, I started to think about my current single situation... the first thought that came into my head is "where am I going to find a girl that looks as good as that." I quickly caught myself however... My sanctimonious platitude over the years has been: "Hot girls are a dime a dozen and cool girls are a dime a dozen, but hot cool girls are one in a million." In truth waiting for this "one in a million" girl is not necessary. Physical beauty is not all it's cracked up to be. I of course have several theory's, which I will forbear explaining in detail about how beautiful people (men and women) tend not to develop personalities. After all, they get accepted and loved simply because they are beautiful. I would say of the really beautiful women I have met in the past 10 years, that 1 in 10 is really cool and the rest are boring, one dimensional, and shallow.
Since my divorce, I have met two "hurts to look at girls", one lives too far away for my lazy butt to pursue, and the other I actually went on a couple of dates with, and then stopped. Certainly she was beautiful, but unfortunately (for her) she was boring. A very limited personality, I had to do all the talking and I was the only one making an effort. I don't think it was this girls fault by any means. If I didn't have to be funny for people to like me... well then I wouldn't be. Recently I have met some girls that physically I would only describe as "cute" who after meeting or talking with them I find myself incredibly attracted to. It's a little different for me because seemingly I have always focused solely on physical attributes.
A good example, I remember watching the movie "Teen Wolf" as a boy. Michael J Fox's character is choosing between the short hair brunette girl who is "cute", and then the blonde girl who is "hot". My dad was watching with me once and said "If you ever have to pick between two girls like that, pick that (the brunette) one." I remember thinking my Dad was weird and had terrible taste. The blonde was way better looking. I wasn't even attempting to consider the personality back then. As an adult however after having met many girls like the blonde***, I am now starting to see what my Dad was trying to teach me.
So, I suppose the point of this rambling (which is what happens when I force a post) is that if attraction could be measured that personality attraction can be as powerful or more powerful than physical attraction. After all plenty of girls fall for me, and I'm not a "hurts to look at" kind of guy, I don't even "smoke". Which only makes me realize that there are more options then I before thought. More options usually means more time. Thanks a lot Jessica Alba for helping me come to this conclusion - now I'll never get married.
*This phenomenon plagues women too, google "Wentworth Miller" and you can see thousands of blog posts of women lauding his destructive good looks.
**The author is not alleging that all of the girls listed will be "hurts to look at" quality for all onlookers. These women are the authors personal favorites. He fully understands that it is a matter of personal preference.
***The author is not attacking blonde's, all blonde's are not void of winning personalities. In the example given, the easiest used distinguishing characteristic just happened to be differing hair colors. For a reverse example see TV's "Smallville" characters Chloe (blonde) and Lana (brunette) where the hotness/personality are opposite according to hair color.